Before you embark on a long, dangerous hike, you wouldn’t just go out into the woods without supplies. You would sit and carefully think about everything you may need to make your journey. Divorce is the same way. You shouldn’t just start your journey without creating a survival kit to help you along the way. Our mediators can assist you in putting together the perfect preparation plan before your divorce. Here are a few simple things you can do to start before your initial consultation.
Create a Support System
It is no secret that going through a divorce is stressful and emotionally difficult. You will need the help of those closest to you in order to successfully make it through this tough time. Learn to ask your family and friends for help, either by assisting with a chore or two or just being available for emotional support. Establishing this support system early on can serve as a solid foundation for the entire process.
Build an Emergency Self-Care Box
Put together a few indulgence items that you can dive into when things get to be too much. Some people enjoy having a nice smelling candle, favorite sweet treat, or perhaps a gift certificate for a massage. Store these items in a box and label it “For Divorce Emergency” and don’t feel bad if you need to refill it now and again. Being kind to yourself is what you need to make it through with your sanity intact.
Gather the Right Information
The family law court can be rather confusing and complicated. Even if you aren’t litigating your divorce, you will need to fill out the necessary paperwork. Your mediator can assist both you and your spouse through this process. It is crucial that you understand what you are signing and what it does. Before you sign your documents, gather as much information about the divorce process, mediation, and how it may impact you. If you have any questions, you can always ask your mediator or an attorney.
For more information about creating your divorce survival kit, contact the mediators at San Diego Family Mediation Center.
by: Jennifer Segura
